The land where wedlock remains securely fastened lifelong

By Dr. Birbal Jha

New Delhi, 28.5.2023

In right now’s world where marital life is failing all throughout with 60% instances of breakup within the west, Mithila, part of the state of Bihar can pleasure itself on being a land where marriage is 100% profitable. The intelligentsia believes that so successful is due to the social cloth, wealthy custom, and the flawless system of the matrimonial establishment.

The cultural heritage of Mithila has been a matter of curiosity for hundreds of years. There are so many cogent causes that give Mithila an edge over different traditions. Here is the great social custom of match-making. People within the belt have adopted progressive and scientific strategies in marriage for hundreds of years. For instance, Saurath Sabha (an open establishment for marriage negotiations) is centuries previous.

However, in right now’s cities, many enterprise facilities have mushroomed within the type of the Marriage Bureaux or Matching Centres, which reportedly work to attach marriageable brides and grooms. But they’re devoid of any investigative mechanism for fixing their suitability and match capacity.

Good sufficient, in Mithila, there have been establishments for over seven hundred years working completely on the private background of the brides and grooms. The individuals operating these establishments had been generally known as Panjiyar, marriage registrars. These marriage registrars have a family tree of tons of of years and cross-check whether or not the approval of conjugality could also be granted.

No preparation for the wedding may begin with out the unequivocal assertion of Adhikar (the proper to marry) to the households who would come to hunt the go-ahead for the wedding proposal. And Adhikar may solely be established if each side didn’t have any blood relations until seven generations of their respective ascendants. If the boy and lady are of the identical Gotra (clan), the proper of marriage would get rejected outright. Intra-clan marriage just isn’t permissible within the belt. However, individuals keep on with endogamy, rejecting exogamy. Today’s medical science has additionally stamped its authority on these practices.

After the Adhikar is established, marriage is advisable, and that is referred to as Siddhant in Mithila. Before the marriage, the well being of the groom is checked completely. In this, it’s referred to as Parichhan, a phrase presumably derived from Sanskrit Pariksha that means examination. In this ritual, the physique of the groom is examined for a medical check-up. During the examination, the nostril is pressed. The very goal of this act is to examine whether or not there’s any semblance of epilepsy or respiratory downside. Not solely is that this however the garments besides underpants are additionally taken off from the physique. The fundamental goal of taking off garments is to examine for pores and skin ailments. Also, psychological checks are carried out. In these investigations, the proposed marriage will get canceled when the groom fails to reside as much as the expectations of the individuals on the bride’s aspect.

After the success of the groom in each bodily health and psychological take a look at, the wedding ceremony is carried out within the presence of the bride and groom. The individuals on the bride’s aspect are referred to as Shariyati whereas Barati is understood to be the one who represents the groom’s aspect. The involvement of each of those individuals is taken into account a witness.

The social cloth is so robust that there’s not even an iota of doubt in regards to the success of the wedding. If there’s any pressure within the new relationship, the individuals concerned on this marriage program and the aged of the home sit collectively and remedy the issue. The bride and groom develop with the considered “as soon as married, inseparable for the entire life”. They want to stay tied as much as the matrimonial bonding even within the rebirths seven occasions with their prayers to God and Goddess and rituals being carried out for a similar.

Even after the marriage ceremony, many rituals happen for one 12 months, wherein nature and hearth are thought-about witnesses. Also, the lyrical rhyme custom is superb. The year-long interval of observing rituals right here additionally performs an necessary position in connecting the bride and groom. It will be referred to as a honeymoon in response to right now’s Western civilization.

During this time the bride and groom get connected so emotionally that plainly each of them are made for one another. The disintegration of the connection turns into alien to them. It is past considering. An utterance for separation is a sin right here. Such is conjugal bonding.

The residents of Mithila have been very beneficiant because the starting. It is alleged that King Janak had empowered Sita to decide on and choose her life companion, organizing Swamber. That implies that for a marriageable lady, the proper to decide on the groom was in Mithila even within the epoch of the Ramayana. For centuries, Mithila has been an instance of girls’s empowerment. There has by no means been any gender bias.

The famous writer Dr Birbal Jha, generally known as Paagman of India is the Managing Director of British Lingua and Chairman of Mithilalok Foundation.
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